Email: Unrealistic expectations [VI]

You are right that idealizing one's partner and relationship leads to disillusionment and often anger. Of course, the solution, while at the same time being romantic, is to be realistic. I see three possible scenarios: Idealizing both partner and relationship yet becoming inevitably disillusioned; expecting normalcy in both partner and relationship yet being frustrated by core incompatibilities; or settling for less than what is healthy in both by failing to address the question.