Email: Love or infatuation [EH]

See, what amazes me is people in seminary having premarital sex -- and marrying someone who agrees to participate. It's more common than conservatives want to believe. And in such a culture, those are the ones who get married, not the ones who stay pure, waiting for a marriage that may never come.

I think it should not be possible to fall in love with someone until you meet in person, get to know each other, and participate in an ongoing dating relationship for at least a few months. I think any feelings before meeting -- esp. when emailing and talking by phone -- should properly be regarded as infatuation. The latter is about one's own needs; the former is about the other's needs.