Email: Decent men [EH]

You're right that only the truly decent men will wait till marriage. They are very conservative so the very most decent. It is a mixed message to engage in the marital act with someone you are not married to. It's very hard for even the most scrupled person to manage one's libido. My only point is that each partner in each couple needs to make conscious decisions about how to act (where to draw the line) because it's difficult to deny one's physicality and it's counterproductive to "just say no" without understanding why. The right behavior is one goal, but doing the right thing for the right reasons is what God truly wants.