Email: More on men [JB]

I hear you, and I hear the same from many others; it's enough to make me think 99% of all men are that way [conniving] (but I have hopes that as much as one-third of single men are sincere souls). You're just going to the wrong places and being approached by the wrong ones.

I suggest trying to meet men (when you're ready) in more "high road" settings such as college- or fine-arts-centered social events. Bars and the Internet are probably your worst bets, percentagewise.