Email: The lexicon of lust [C]

See, the problem with the patriarchal Catholic system (as with the patriarchal Muslim system) is that men blame women for "leading" or "causing" them to sin -- which clinically is a dysfunctional spin on reality. No, women shouldn't dress like whores; but it is every man's responsibility to think and act morally in any situation. A woman is not "asking for" poor treatment because she is curvy and flatteringly attired; our workplace expects decent behavior from all men concerned, so why can't our religious institutions? It's only denying an issue that leads to one's fear of it; "behold," responsible discussion "casts out all fear" (see I John 4:18). Lust is only lust if pursued. For simple desires impinging on our selves, we should be grateful that we are alive -- and be mature enough to not feel needy or to pressure ourselves into self-defeating attitudes and behaviors.