Email: Matchmaking habit [EH]

Focus on what works and work on what is your focus. If you have practical matters to tend to, take care of business first. Online matching is not an escape so thinking it might be becomes an addictive cycle of (too shallow) hope and (inevitable) disappointment. A person has to be healthy and ready for a true-love relationship or the door will not open for you, it will keep hitting you in the face. A love relationship is not a remedy, it is a responsibility to be stood up for with action, not hoped for with inaction. Reach[ing] this point -- and still reaching higher -- [is how to prove oneself] acceptable to a [man or] woman of real substance.