Email: Dominance and control [SD]

By dominant I meant overpowering (which is why I said it can only happen when one partner is being a total control freak). By the way, your ex has no business asking your opinion on his life or edicts -- that is yet another ploy to keep you in his orbit and control. It was good for you to see and say that his goal is total control. Now just learn to separate yourself from it so it no longer affects or impinges on your own orbital mechanics.

Definitely listen to classical music if you used to do so before your marriage went south. It is a part of your soul that was lost and you should find again.