Email: Holidays and nights alone [SS]

Thanksgiving and other holidays can suck when alone, but I do better than most, it seems, at maintaining a mental and emotional connection with others even when far away. Being stuck in Houston [sometimes], I prefer to cook my own than to be the guest of a church family who opens their home to all the lonely, non-culinary-skilled singles who have no family in reach. I prefer to host than to be hosted.

So you're saying you might intersect with or co-occupy that other side of your bed if you had a partner who already kept it warm for you? Isn't that like a child who doesn't want a toy until another child picks it up? ;-) Do what I do: Take up the whole bed for [your]self! Don't feel like half of a couple; see yourself as a whole person. It's your bed! Once you do have a partner, you may wish you could reclaim some of that real estate, you know.

You might be getting or you might be noticing more interest. Certainly you're feeling more ready to possibly do something about it. A word of caution: Do not surrender all the initiative to the man. Be picky. You want Mr. Right, not Mr. Right Now. Right?

It's a real part of who you are though; so while it might to easier to ignore [or repress] your sexuality, it's more growthful to teach yourself how to care for it and share it. Learn wisdom!

There are men around; but you want [one] good man. They'll find you; but you want the one that you find and choose for yourself.