Email: A conversation endures [SD]

Every story has two sides when neither "side" cares about the truth, only themselves. When one person bends over backwards to give the other person every benefit of the doubt and goes to great lengths to be as fair, considerate, accommodating, and adhering to the truth as possible -- even at great personal cost to himself -- then I tend to trust that person's judgment more (as will others who consider it carefully too). Any major event in a person's past usually does have significance in the present and the future, so long as there remain questions to be answered and lessons to be learned. (No life trauma is immediately and completely digestible.) The only ones who prefer to leave things in the past probably either cannot or will not address the questions necessary in order to learn and grow; their emotional need for comfort is greater than their spiritual need to grow. I have not been saying the topic in question should be left alone in the past; I am saying (for a third time, in these exact words) it is not your concern. Boundaries.

If anyone knew how to tell when he or she has met the right person to love and marry as soon as they met that person, life would sure be simpler, huh?