Email: The Rules [CH]

It's a common thread in all dating-advice books (going back to one called, and I am not making this up, The Rules) that the woman should never call the man because that gives her power away and will make him slough off like the lout he really must be. Similarly the man should always appear circumspect and never talk about his feelings (or whatever other claptrap they're claiming) because that would give away his power etc. It's a politically and strategically drawn drama that stands apart from the intimacy and tenderness of a real relationship (between equals). I doubt the harpies who write such stuff have ever been in love, or will be.