Relationships: Men's two core motives

I realized last March what a man's two core motives often are when approaching a woman, I am sad to say: Either he thinks she is the hottest babe around so he deserves her (pride) to be his sugar baby or he thinks she is less than the hottest babe (even slightly frumpy) so she will be grateful for his affections (laziness) and be his sugar mama. Either way, he is objectifying her but in the second case he actually chooses her because he disrespects her and thinks he recognizes his low self esteem in her.

The key is not for a man to choose a woman to boost or to salve his own ego but to see and appreciate her for who she really is. As always, of course, honesty and mutual respect are pivotal in determining true compatibility.